my lover is a very high iq person (140) and he’s so awesome and yea has a lot of knowlegde about a lot of things, but recently i took an iq test and i got 85, it sucks, i told him that i hope that does not affect any aspect of our relationship!! and i’m not going to sugar code it but honestly i think that difference does cause a bit of trouble in our relationship because i am aware that my low iq may cause problems or it could make him feel annoyed/bothered!! what can i do to improve that?? i love him so much and i don’t want him to feel like i don’t understand him, sometiems i don’t a lot but, i always understand the general idea of the stuff he likes and i’m always seeking out more knowledge from him and the wider internet. thank you!!!
edit: i’ve always thought i was 100 or 150+ iq because i am interested in open source software, linux, foss, gnu, the fediverse, and reading, etc!! programming too
Kindness, compassion, sense of humor, open mind, love of learning, and the self confidence to not let yourself be trampled are the qualities a partner will be attracted to.
Both of my sons are very smart and they’ve both dated women who were likely above and below them. The ones who stick around the longest are the ones who have the personality to match theirs- and to stand up to them when they’re being jerky.
I love that my husband is smart, but i hate that he can be difficult to work with on projects because he’s not used to being wrong.