like being told to “move my fat ass” or just plain annoying and then telling me they were joking.

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    5 days ago

    The difference between a joke and bullying is entirely down to the victim. They are allowed to be as sensitive as they want. “Its just a joke” tries to turn it back on them. The only reasonable response is along the lines of "I intended it as a joke, but obviously screwed up. I’m sorry. "

    The only grey area are those who are happy to dish it out, but not receive. You should expect people to wind you up to the same level you wind them/others to.

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      5 days ago

      “It’s just a joke” is perfectly valid, dammit. Once. After that, do not repeat it - you already know the person you aim it at doesn’t enjoy it.

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        5 days ago

        Nope.

        It’s down to you to either read the room correctly or apologise for getting it wrong. You just don’t get judged too harshly for the first offence.