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Cake day: August 6th, 2023
  • tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Women are already sexy, but if they turn out in historic levels to destroy Trump they will somehow become even sexier
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    3 days ago

    Maybe some guys are just more confident in themselves and desire a bit of a challenge… The more outgoing and assured a woman is about their own desires, the better they are in the bedroom, at least for those that can deal with a woman’s needs instead of only thinking of their own pathetic self.

    Don’t get me wrong, there’s a place for many ways in the spectrum of stronger vs subdued, but the best is when regardless of the play outside the bedroom they can be clear about what they need and want once inside.

    A very astute observation from the author Heinlein:

    “Darling, a true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best. At other times you can be as modest and dignified as your persona requires.”

    I’m not super happy about connotations of some of the words but for it’s time written, the summation of “fuck what society thinks and absolutely do anything you desire” holds great value.

    She doesn’t have to be a Dom to be clear about her needs. Strong confidence just means she knows her weapon and can bring a bit of a rumble to the tumble.

    Dudes who are afraid of strong chicks need to go jerk off in their overbuilt bullshit trucks and stop harassing women and trying to convince everyone their dicks aren’t 3".

    Take some fucking Viagra or something if you can’t keep it up when a woman talks.

  • tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What was something you learned too late in life?
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    7 days ago

    Heh, thanks! No but my girlfriend hates that I don’t. I grew up reading books that my other (not crappy) older brother did and his influence greatly impacted my interest in science and language.

    One brother is a psychopath, the other is literally the type of scientist that is changing the world. I’ve considered trying at writing some once I finish cleaning up my life from the people I’ve had to excise.

    For what it’s worth, I just have spent my life having to constantly revise how I communicate and sometimes it helps. Usually it just annoys people if they aren’t really interested.

  • tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What was something you learned too late in life?
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    7 days ago

    That’s a bit different, and as it should be, but then it’s likely clearer to just directly state the intent to protect the future generation.

    “Family first” in my experience has always referred to the lateral or upstream bloodline. Deadbeat parents or lazy piece of crap siblings trying to justify grift or outright abuse.

    I’m an ideal world, the phrase wouldn’t exist and people would just be decent; parents would prioritize their children and siblings etc would just help each other. I wish this were the case, but as with many others I’ve instead come to trust and rely on found family instead of bloodline.

    And I’m forever in debt to my daughter. I will never expect her to put my life or needs before hers. My disgust at my own parents’ egotistical failings only magnified after personally experiencing becoming a parent.

    Family is a sorting category word though, so while there’s truth to kids first, the phrase regarding family first is very very often abused to try forcing the hand of broken ties between the aging parent wanting the child to instead provide regardless of whether it’s deserved or not. It’s frequently an excuse for abusive siblings who’ve continually taken advantage of their kin.

    Bluntly, relation is pure chance and does not immediately imply a debt with exception from “parents must care for their child” by social and biological need. I don’t owe my physically and mentally abusive parents or brother a damned thing except my disgust.

    People in general, not just kin, need to earn respect and community with each other. The bond of parent caring for child doesn’t immediately imply the child owes the parent for “bringing them into this world”, and instead implies a larger scope debt toward that child then being indebted to any children they subsequently bring into this life.

  • tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoscience@lemmy.world•New Autism Research Finds That Autistic Brains Are Differently Wired
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    23 days ago

    Ok, but what type of autistic?

    My brother and I are different types. He’s super genius, and it’s not Savantism. Crazy good physicist, but awkward.

    My daughter is yet another. Smart, not like my brother but not an idiot. Absolutely all of hers is wrapped up in communicative and emotional disorders, with some associated tics and traits. She has to learn social interactions the hard way and still lives my mimic frequently.

    I’m the one that was able to read body language absurdly accurately, to the point of fault and often pissing other folks of as I had no idea why they said something when it was absolutely false… This combined with a nearly faultless audio sense of memory (not eidetic) got my into frequent trouble with people getting mad at me not got arguing, but for always being right.

    So I ask… Who exactly did they stick under the microscope here? I’m not bitching; I really want there to be more and better research here, but I’m skeptical of most that wraps up things in so neat a headline or category. What variations of spectrum? Did they compensate for more societal assumptions and myths than has been the history here?

    The paper itself lists a highly limiting scope, with effectively a bias that would have eliminated all 3 of us from consideration for various reasons. Instead, they are polling data from effectively a group that in glance looks like a socially acceptable grouping, leaving out a huge block that have any metal illness diagnosis based on 2013 DSM… A joke in itself here.

    I appreciate that they are trying to look at an early development baseline to see what forms differently at crucial 1-4 year ages and then watching confirmed formation changes in later life. My concern is that ruling out what at a glance is a huge sampling purely on assumption that “mental illness” and a few of the other limits they imposed have boxed them into the old single flavor diagnosis again.