mendiCAN [none/use name]

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Joined 23 days ago
Cake day: April 17th, 2025
  • mendiCAN [none/use name]@hexbear.nettochat@hexbear.net•I fucking hate that the incident with my brother still bothers me.English
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    38 minutes ago

    “all you know is yourself! what do you know about the person I see?”

    Just because you’re inside you doesn’t mean you know yourself best. Maybe in fact you are too close to see the real you.

    it worries me to see you talking so casual about pushing folks, both family and friends, away.

    You show your clear eyes in this post, how you know you are very harsh on yourself, but then in this same post you deny others any right to give you an ounce of grace, to show you the beautiful person they see, the person they want to continue to know.

    You shut them out from yourself, framing it here as ‘what is best for them’, but i believe that is a lie you’re telling yourself to protect your own heart.

    You demand perfection from yourself. You must make the right choice for everyone involved at all times. This is an extremely, impossibly high standard, doomed to fail, cuz youre a human.

    When you inevitably fail to meet that lofty perfection, you shut down and shut out everyone else, “protecting them”…from what exactly? Your humanity? let them decide. its dismissing to them to make that choice for them, they don’t need protection from you.

    Humans make mistakes, hurt others on accident, even with the best intentions. You know this, but still try to be better than human, a higher standard than is possible to achieve. It can’t be done, and you’re hurting yourself by trying, setting yourself up to fail, and when it inevitably happens you’re hurting yourself, cutting out those close to you who care.

    tldr give yourself more grace and love, and if you can’t, at least listen and don’t shut out people that want to be around you. They can see things you don’t see, and help be a bulwark against your exacting self-eval

  • mendiCAN [none/use name]@hexbear.nettogames@hexbear.net•GTA 6 delayed to May 2026English
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    7 days ago

    something clicked for me in what you wrote about open world games, and i think that for me, the main thing i GOTTA have for a game where you end up meandering about is: the movement itself has gotta feel joyful. like for example (since you didn’t mention it) with Horizon: zero dawn, Aloy just felt so good to move (and fight) with that it never felt like a chore to get where i was going. i never even used mounts, they weren’t as right as just runnin. it helps a lot to have meaningful goals or treasure to find, but there’s always an ending of meaningful things if you play enough. for me if its ever boring to get there the game is on borrowed time

  • mendiCAN [none/use name]@hexbear.nettoMemes@lemmy.ml•Stop dividing the left!English
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    13 days ago

    if Democrats are the “only option” then leftists have no option.

    Democrats are losers even when they win, so might as well vote for the “actually leftist” parties instead. they’ll lose the election, but Dems lose after they win.

    if leftists vote for a representative cuz “they can win”, but when they win they don’t represent leftists, why should leftists vote for them?

    fuuuuck that shit.

    Dems suck, they think/act like they know best. They tell us they’re gonna do what they’re gonna do anyway and that we need to follow em like good employees or kiddos. no thanks, i don’t need "reps"like that, they can eat shit

    I’m good continuing to vote 3rd party. ill take my L with pride rather than vote for those professional losers ever again