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Cake day: June 13th, 2025

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  • but at least the professionals have the training to deal with that somehow

    Ha. You want to know the training you get for dealing with death? It’s a couple of sentences uttered by an instructor when some bozo in the class has more curiosity than thought and asks about the ‘yep, he’s dead’ policy. Most of the time you’ll have one of a pair who has done it before, and they just tell the other one what to do (like putting on the electrodes or looking around the room to see what else has been done). That’s the whole of it, adding in the jokes that will be told and the mild amusement of watching the other’s reaction when you grab a coke out of the dead dude’s fridge (I didn’t, but the more experienced one had when he was stuck at a house for six hours).










  • They sell the idea of a fantasy. There are plenty of men who joke about finding someone to make them a ‘trophy husband.’ Not having to work, being doted on by another person, having a life of luxury… these are powerful yearnings that can easily be twisted by manipulators. The short form video that has taken over everything is key to selling it as well. It hides all the negatives and just splatters you with all this positive feeling, and it works on basically everything. Recipes? Done in five seconds with the easiest cleanup (ignored). Chores? Done in six seconds by some ‘amazing’ method. Kids wrecking your peace and destroying the house? Easily solved with ten seconds of effort and supplies that magically appeared.

    Now take all of those concepts and roll them up in a little package that is delivered to the frazzled, over-worked, financially struggling young person (in this case the girl who is now living on her own [without family, that is] with three roommates) and tell them if they can just find a husband who looooooves them all their worries will be gone, and being a trad wife suddenly becomes a dream. It’s not really any different than how we culturally treat the wedding day: it’s built into this giant affair that is largely promoted to be the highest peak in a relationship, and we get the stupidly expensive production and the bridezillas as a result. Now we’re getting a large amount of women who are willing to trade the long term goods (suffrage and other rights) for what they think they could get as a tradwife.

    I could go on about how men are also getting sucked into this fantasy on the other end as a part of that ‘toxic masculinity’ we hear about, but since we’re on about tradwifes in this post, I’ll save it.