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  • Hey! I’m a psychologist who also happens to be a gamer and be in a relationship. I have something to add.

    Your real problem isn’t really about gaming. You could change gaming to any activity, and your complaint would remain valid. Your real problem is me-time vs. we-time. The exact balance of the two and what programs are included will be different in every relationship. You need to communicate and find a balance that works for both of you.

    Gaming is a fun hobby, but when it starts hurting other areas of one’s life, you need to address them. For me time spent with my girl is important, so I usually don’t game in the evening, we watch a show together.










  • The Geneva Suggestion Front: Bug/Squid Role: Crowd control and warcrimes

    Primary: Incendiary shotgun/Flamethrower Secondary: Verdict/Lock-on pistol Grenade: Gas Armor: Heavy gas resistant Booster: Vitality

    Strategems: -Gas Guard Dog -Orbital Gas Strike -Flamethrower/Free pick, if covered by primary -Free pick Good options: Gas mines/Napalm Strike/Napalm Barrage/Orbital railcannon/Mission specific pick

    Gas disorients, fire destroys. With armor+booster you can walk in the gas clouds unharmed.

    Flamethrowers can handle anything with relative ease on the bug front, except for titans. Pack a railcannon if they are a problem. The flame shotguns are also a great anti-shrieker tool, hit them once let the fire do the rest.

    On the squid front you are an anti-horde/fleshmob specialist. The gas by itself will kill the voteless and stop the meatballs from attacking your team. You can handle overseers, but anything larger will prove to be a problem.

    Skip the bot front with this one though.




  • I’m here to offer a small story that happend a few years ago.

    On one summer day I was working at a hotel reception desk. It was the weekend of the Hungarian F1 championship, the hotel was booked to the brim, we couldn’t house an extra mouse, even if we wanted to.

    The day before the event it was incredibly hectic, arrivals every minute, all the guests are tired and some are frustrated by the inconveniences of travel. Hard day for all involved.

    In the afternoon a group of Greeks show up. We start checking them in, scanning passports, allocating rooms… wait a second, there’s more people in front of the desk than on the ledger. Well, that’s awkward. We find the guys not on the list and break the news. They swear they have a reservation, a friend of theirs said she’s found rooms when even a traveling agency couldn’t so they came. We believe them, but they are still not on the list. My partner expands the search on a hunch, and we find the reservation. So they made one. For the same day next year. Normally we’d just move the reservation and be done with it. But that day, we didn’t have an empty dining chair, nevermind a room. Neither did any of our nearby sister hotels. The entire city was booked for that weekend.

    In that absolute rollercoster we could give them one ray of hope: we had an unconfirmed reservation, that may or may not show. So my manager made the decision to give the room to the Greeks if the other group didn’t show by 6pm. They didn’t, and thus we could house everyone.

    Moral for me was that even when all has gone off the rails, usually there’s a solution. It may all seem fucked right now, but when you calm down, you might find ways to salvage the situation.





  • Keep your promises and be predictable. Predictability and clear rules and consequences create a sense of security and it will make it easier for them to comply. Treat them with respect, they are small, not stupid. Treat them kindly but firmly, what they want isn’t always what they need.

    You also might want to talk with the parents about this, they know their kids best and can give specific advice. What works with one kid, might not work with the other.