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Cake day: October 2nd, 2024

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  • It’s the barren concrete taking up 3/4 of the view with a hint of lawn behind more concrete. Europe was built before modern vehicles and has narrower streets with more residential in between businesses and has some cobblestone and what not. USA was built around railways and highways so everyone has a car and walking was an afterthought.

    Edit: additionally ever wonder why Europeans say how far a distance is in kilometers and Americans answer with “it’s about 25 minutes”? It’s partially that reason plus the physical distance is larger (some states are larger than countries) so miles mean less to us than knowing the time, post logistics.






  • I would argue that nobody should own a home they don’t actually live in. All renting out does is increase the housing cost overall because nobody would ever operate at a loss or to break even. This is the issue people have with say, Blackrock who buys hundreds of homes at a time and rents them out.

    Your family aren’t bad people but the business they decided to take up is inherently bad by design. If the law changed tomorrow saying all multi homes must sell to non homeowners, everyone would watch prices drop and be able to afford it.

    Using homes as an investment is at its basics, exploiting a need by interpreting it as a want or practical goods. Homes are for living in. The housing industry views homes like commodities as if people have a wide choice and selection when it’s really “Omg we can afford this one that popped up randomly, we have 12 hours to decide if we want to pay 50k more to beat others away” and then lose anyway after bidding to Blackrock who pays 100k over asking.


  • It’s always so weird because it’s not like you can go to your primary doctor and say “I want X drug” right? Like, if there was a reason to give you a drug for something the doctor would have prescribed it. Also not ask you how you felt about them, just that here is X drug for your Y problem. If that doesn’t work we try Z.

    Or do people actually swap doctors over and over for months until they get one who says “ok dude”?


  • I just want to reiterate that each response you’ve given is dismissive and also you’re putting yourself down. Each comment. So it’s okay to focus on your self esteem first by breaking the cyclical issue of (I don’t have hobbies, therefore I am lame. I am lame because I have no hobbies) and you have to get uncomfortable and force yourself to do something new or stop doing something you think is problematic. The hard part isn’t doing that though, the hard part is doing that again and again. The first week you’ll be reminding yourself a lot but over the first month or two you will simply be someone who does x thing.

    Clean your room. Make your bed. Every day. Seriously it’s a easy way to physically and visually start seeing a daily change that makes a difference. Maybe it’s lame or pointless but it’s definitely progress when you’re stuck in a rut.


  • Calling bull on your pity party. I met my wife because she messaged me online about smash bros. If you do anything besides eating pooping and sleeping then you will have an interest. If not then you should do anything besides eating pooping and sleeping and seeing if you had a good time. Here’s a start… You know what you DON’T like right? So do opposites. If you hate watching TV then read a book. If you hate computers then pick up woodworking. I’m not your dad and can’t tell you what to do, but I guarantee you know what you don’t want to do. Start there.


  • Woe is me, you’re not not attractive because of your financial status, you’re not attractive because when you put others on a pedestal they have no choice but to look down on you.

    If you can’t be comfortable or happy by yourself than you can’t go out of your way for others. Like how on an airplane you put your oxygen mask on before helping others put their mask on.

    I had a bad bout of depression and opted to remove myself from social situations instead during my 20s. Once you realize that if other people have a problem with your problems more than you have with your own problems, that’s their issue…it is an epiphany. Even absolutely successful people have endless haters, just put on horse blinders and tell yourself “fuck it” and just do what makes you happy.

    You’ll bump into people who want to hang out as you keep doing activities for yourself. If you like hiking or drawing, hike and draw. If you like running go run. I guarantee the people also doing those things have something to talk about to open the Pandoras box of conversation.

    Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm. Good luck, it’s a process. Gotta learn how to respect yourself the same or more than you want to have others like you.