That sounds like a lot to deal with, and it sounds like you’re dealing with it alone. I’m sorry to hear that. I wonder if any of the doctors you are seeing could suggest a support group, or if there are some online you might like. Lemmy seems great (I’m new) but not necessarily super active.

If thinking about getting into a relationship is causing additional stress, it might not be a bad idea to hold off. It is absolutely possible to find a fulfilling relationship with chronic pain/chronic illness, but it’s difficult to do so when you’re not in a great place mentally.

Have you looked into telehealth/virtual therapy appointments? There’s betterhelp, though I don’t think they work with insurance, and you might be able to find an in-state provider who would do telehealth. I would advise sending out some emails to providers in your state and seeing who might be open to telehealth.

I wish you all the best. I have many relatives with chronic pain/chronic illness who have been able to find partners who understand. It is possible. For the moment, though I can’t imagine how difficult it is, do what you can to help yourself.

Someone make a community for pics of coffee + books, pls

I had this exact thing happen in Duolingo. I remember being annoyed, because in school I had learned to say “comment t’appelles-tu” but Duolingo taught me “comment tu t’appelles.” Then it seemingly randomly switched back to the original one I knew, like I should have been using that the whole time.

What happened I think, is we left the “s” off of the end, so Duolingo marked it as wrong, but rather than add the “s”, it gave a different correction (the more proper way to say it). If you had put the “s” on the end, it would have been accepted as correct.

Meowdy