I try everything I can, music, animation, art, programming, even Sports yet no one understands me!

It’s so hard to live with autism, and I’m wondering how I can get help. 😩

  • 520@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    If you want people to understand you, you have to communicate with them what you want them to understand. Explicitly. Don’t drop hints or clues, you have to say it outright. People are not mind readers, or even experts in non verbal communication, not even NTs.

    Hopefully the person you convey your feelings to is compassionate and empathetic. Be prepared for if they aren’t though. Don’t be afraid to just drop these kinds of people like a shit in the toilet. Just wipe, flush and walk away. They don’t deserve your time.

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      1 year ago

      That’s good advice. I had to learn that the hard way.

      Just because something seems obvious or clear to me, doesn’t mean it does to others. It gets exhausting having to explain everything though. It’s also equally exhausting to ask others to explain what the hell they’re talking about constantly, because they also assume you can read their mind and have the exact same thoughts and reactions that they do.

      And then you run into the issue with family or coworkers completely ignoring the things you directly do or say, and throwing their own bizarre interpretations and assumed motivations on top of it, and getting upset when you react.

      I’ve had people do and say things that are insulting and combative out of the blue on first time I’ve interacted with them all day, demand I reply, and then get upset of me for starting a fight when I ask why they are being rude, or when I reply in kind.

      Maybe I just keep bad company, but it feels like being gaslit 24/7.