Like, seriously, I have had a few people talk about how my fiancé wasn’t conventionally attractive, but he’s attractive to me :)
Plus, he’s good to me, and I don’t date for looks. I’ve had conventionally attractive exes too who have been horrible people, so…
I mean, did they talk about how he wasnt conventionally attractive or did they care about it?
Are they saying, “old ugly bob is coming by for dinner tonight, make sure to put out an extra setting”, or are they saying “don’t date bob because he’s old and ugly”?
“Ew, he’s ugly/He’s ugly, you can do better.”
Like, my blunt uncle might make a joke about a boyfriend being ugly and cracking a mirror or something, but he would never, ever, say something like ‘you can do better’ or ‘ew’.
There’s a line between being open and honest about someone’s attractiveness, and being cruel and a bad judge of character.
Yeah, those sound like crappy people that you’re talking to.
These people you are talk to are shallow and immature. As far as those people you have to choose from to talk to, you can do better.