For context (if you’re a sane person and not extremely online), researcher William Costello recently did a simple, anonymous Twitter poll. Men and women were invited to rate pictures of British singer Olly Murs when he was huskier vs. when he really hit his gym goals and became legitimately shredded.
Disclaimer: I’m a lesbian so I don’t have a dog in this fight, but I’m not surprised women vote more for the photo on the left. He just seems friendlier and more approachable, someone you would have fun hanging out with, so I guess that anecdotally gives credence to what the author is saying. The photo on the right looks like someone who’s a bit too intense, and I say this as someone who is also trying to get somewhat ripped. It’s funny because when I’m at the gym almost a lot of times I assume the super ripped dudes working out there are bi or gay, and more often than not I’m right. I know it’s judging a book by its cover, but clearly that aesthetic appeals to other guys (who are also into guys).
As a transbian I at least have an interest in it. How the author describes being attracted to men describes how I’m attracted to women. This section is definitely relatable and in that sense euphoric:
Like, I like boobs, but sometimes as I see a drawing where the boobs are so big all I’m thinking about is how that person’s spine would be ripped out of their back. Which is a turn off to me anyway.
Yeah I’m demi and that bit stuck out to me as well. Like, I’ve no interest in this guy, ripped or otherwise, but like I mentioned above, the left version of him seems more approachable. I can envision a scenario where it’s easier to envisage being with a person based on their ‘vibe’ even without having spoken to them. It’s like a foot in the door in a way.