This question has been around for a while but I’m curious as to your answer

  • The Dark Lord ☑️@lemmy.ca
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    6 months ago

    No. You’re not a source of terror. But people don’t know that. They just see a man. The issue isn’t with you, it’s with common experiences women have had with men.

    There are so many bears that don’t hurt humans. But humans carry bear spray just in case the one they encounter is dangerous.

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      6 months ago

      The issue isn’t with you, it’s with common experiences women have had with men.

      And that’s exactly the problem. I’m not those men. I have no intention of acting like those men. Yet I’m still scared that I’m going to get pepper sprayed anyway just for asking a woman for directions.

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        6 months ago

        You’re afraid that a woman might pepper spray you if you scare her, while she’s afraid you’ll kill her if she upsets you.

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        6 months ago

        Unfortunately dangerous men don’t wear signs around their necks. They just look like normal dudes. It’s the false positive vs false negative. A false positive results in the woman walking away and maybe an awkward moment between two people. A false negative can result in being raped and/or murdered. That’s really what it boils down to. Women just want to stay safe.

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        6 months ago

        Buddy, you’re throwing off such strong “nice guy” vibes you’re squicking me out, and I’m a 50-something year old, hairy, straight dude!

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          6 months ago

          That’s on you, pal. I don’t feel entitled to anything but the same basic respect I give anyone, man, woman, or otherwise. All I want is not to be looked at as an existential threat just for existing and I really don’t think that’s unreasonable.