Yo, for real though, how do you guys deal with this?
Poorly
Big same
The biggest thing that helped me was to just accept that my brain is like this and not beat myself up about it. When I learned that executive disfunction was a thing with a name that lots of ppl have, and not just me being a lazy and useless moral failure, like it helped me immediately bc stress and anxiety and self loathing turned into a feedback loop that made my executive dysfunction worse. Being mean to myself never made me functional, it just made me miserable. Now I’m like, “well, I just can’t do that right now and that’s okay. Maybe I’ll even ask someone for help doing this task. Maybe I’ll just find zen in laying here.”
We need more very hungry caterpillar memes in this world. Cute and relatable as I write procrastinating from my cocoon!
After my burnout, I discovered I operate on fear. I no longer work and my mother is dead so all stress related to doing things I need to do is gone. I have to work myself up to a shower over several days to a week. I don’t take care of myself at all. I hate it but I actually need someone to shame me into doing something. The embarrassment and stress is the only thing that can guarantee I have the energy to do something.
So I think the answer to this question is, I don’t deal with it. I just live with the shame of not dealing with it. Considering what I’ve been through, shame is a drop in the bucket. Won’t be changing any time soon.
